We are our own worst enemy so much of the time. We get in our own way, we hold ourselves back from overcoming a hurdle, accomplishing something amazing, becoming someone new. We get in the way of the Holy Spirit, allowing our inner voice to drown His out. We create an unhappy reality for ourselves without even realizing it, and then complain about it. BIGGEST
This is called having a fixed mindset or a limiting belief about yourself or your circumstances.
Let’s look at some examples of how this could be lived out.
Let’s say you’ve always been significantly overweight.It just seems totally impossible that you would ever really lose that weight and have that body – that’s a fixed mindset.BIGGEST
Here’s another example:
You’ve always had a lot of clutter. It wouldn’t be a birthday party in your house if you didn’t spend the entire day beforehand screaming at your family to help and shoving crap into the bedroom closets. This is just the way it’s always been and you can’t really imagine how your life would look if you had absolutely no clutter. You can see how it would free up your time, but you can’t actually envision that being your life. Fixed mindset. Limiting belief.
Let’s look at one more example, this time I’ll pull from my own life. I’ve actually related to both the examples listed above, and overcome them, but I want to dive deeper with you. Getting personal here! large
I didn’t finish college
I got married young and my husband Brian (who also did not go to college) and I came back from our honeymoon to hardship – he had been laid off and the economy was crashing – it hit us right from the start. We struggled financially from the moment we said “I do” and it didn’t let up.
We had our four babies and struggled to make ends meet all the time. large
Long story short, God brought our family into a situation that led to the idea of me starting a business out of this blog.
I wanted to help more overwhelmed moms experience the freedom I had through a life of less clutter and overwhelm, and I knew I could do that through my business, but my limiting beliefs held me back from changing lives and changing our finances. BIGGESTWhen I finally realized this, I remember feeling like a rock had hit me in the head – my whole world was shaken up and I didn’t want to live under the weight of my fixed mindset for even one more minute. I went outside and prayed, and started speaking truth over myself and my business. .
I can be successful because I am called by God, qualified, and smart. College doesn’t fit in with who I am and what my calling is. That truth trumped my limiting beliefs and I have never looked back.large
I want you to overcome your biggest hurdles by changing the way you think, too. It’s such a powerful ability we all have! Our thoughts hold incredible power.
You can apply this to any area of your life and find your own personal limiting mindsets lurking. Let’s talk about what you can do about it.
STOP COUNTING YOUR FAILURE AS THE END OF THE ROAD. LEARN FROM IT, AND TRY AGAIN.
Nobody cares but you. Let it go, detach yourself from it – that failure is not your identity. Move on and try again.
MOVE FROM A FIXED MINDSET TO A GROWTH MINDSET
You’re stuck, and it’s totally possible for you to pull out of it. Change your way of thinking by counteracting your limiting beliefs with the truth. I’m a big believer in writing things down. Studies show that we are 42% more likely to accomplish goals when we write them down, so I think it’s pretty important to write down what it is we’re wanting to change in ourselves too. BIGGEST
Write out your limiting beliefs, then write out the truths and positive affirmations that counteract those beliefs. Get into the habit of saying those positive words out loud to yourself every day. Watch your world transform.
Help yourself overcome by putting your truths and the goal you want to make your reality right in front of your face all the time. Create a list or picture of vision board of where you want to go, place it somewhere you’ll see it all throughout the day, like your fridge or car steering wheel. Focus on it, let it permeate your brain all day long.
Make sure your affirmations make you feel something. When you’re reading them out loud, you should feel yourself being filled with hope – it should feel like someone is breathing life into you. When I read mine, I can feel something inside of me shifting, responding to the words I’m saying. Make them bold, not timid.
I am also generous and changing the world with my money.”
But suddenly, nearly overnight, this was our reality, and now we are truly seeing our money do good things and change the world through giving – it’s incredible to see this practice take effect in your life. You can do this same thing with anything you’re struggling to overcome. large
Allie Casazza is The Purposeful Housewife. She is all about helping you purge the clutter that’s clogging your joy, rediscover the purpose in your days, and live with intention. BIGGEST
Learn more about Allie @thepurposefulhousewife.